It’s a sad fact that many people in recovery will relapse. If you are in recovery, the odds are you will be put into a situation in which a friend relapses. This is an unfortunate situation for all involved. However, no matter how good a friend they are, you should always put your own recovery first. You can try and help them, but don’t sacrifice your own recovery in the process.
Many people in recovery choose to socialize with other people in the same situation, especially after rehab. You may have chosen to live in a halfway house, which means you are surrounded by recovery addicts. There are pros and cons to living with people in recovery, the chances of someone relapsing can be high.
Helping When a Friend Relapses
As previously stated, you should always make your health a priority. No matter how strong you feel, it is easier to bring someone down than lift them up. Early in recovery, you are susceptible to relapse. When a friend relapses, people close to them tend to follow. It is your responsibility to make sure this doesn’t happen.
The best thing you can do is to learn to recognize the signs of a relapse about to occur. Common signs that a relapse is imminent often include:
- The person brings up the good times when they were using substances
- The person becomes distant
- They begin hanging out with the wrong crowd
- Their behavior changes
- You see them using or drinking
If you notice any of these behaviors, think before you confront your friend. It may be better to gather a group of friends, who care, to help you intervene. If you reside in a sober living home, you can always ask your house manager for assistance. If you find it necessary, you can contact the person’s parents or someone else close to them. Having more people on your side will help ensure a positive result.
After the Relapse
Once a friend relapses, it’s imperative they receive the treatment they need to prevent a downward spiral from happening. You may choose to have an intervention with a group, together, you may help your friend realize their self-worth.
If you witness the relapse, try not to be a hero and risk your sobriety. If you’re around drugs and alcohol and your friend asks you to join them, leave. You don’t want to risk relapsing too. They are too far gone and aren’t willing to help themselves.
If they ask for help, it is important to be there as a friend. If you’re unsure about being in their presence, its ok to do so from a distance like calling them and letting them know you are here if they need to talk. You can also choose to meet with them at meetings or treatment. The more time you spend in a positive atmosphere, the better. In recovery, it important to always keep your sobriety in mind and stay active in your recovery. No matter how much the friendship means to you, always remember you can only do so much before putting your own health at risk.
For more information on programs that can help you or your loved ones move past a relapse and get sober again, call Asana Recovery at 949-438-4504.
